For many people resolving conflict is a challenging if not impossible task. One bad turn begets another and before you know it, what was said in jest or carelessness, has turned into a Mexican stand-off. The office is divided, people are taking sides and the troubles in the Middle-East start to pale in comparison.
Dave Andrews said ‘Lord, give me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the person I can, and the wisdom to know it is me!’
As the only person we can ever change, influence, affect and encourage is ourselves I think this is a fabulous place to start (and finish)
So, I know 'she said' and 'you said,' then 'he did' and 'you thought' and 'they even' …. But where is it going to end. Is it worth losing your sanity over? Do you want it to give you yet another sleepless night? Is the stress of coping day-after-day now overlapping into your home life? Time to take action!
I have one enormous, ground-breaking, earth-shattering, quite shocking thing to say and suggest. How would you behave if the person at the root of all your discontent were your young child? What would you do then? If you don’t have children, think of your favourite person; the one you love above all others. The one that always gets the benefit of the doubt. The one you always see through loving eyes. The one who really doesn’t do such a thing as 'wrong' in your book.
Try and overlay the object of all your affection over the body of the person causing all your discontent. See them as you would your treasured one. Think of them with that love, that compassion, that understanding and that unending tolerance. Now listen to what they say. How do you feel? If it is less than accepting and understanding keep practicing. When we can be unconditional with all the people in our lives, we realise that their opinion is none of our business and nothing that they do is directed at us anyway.
Consider your own behaviour. When are you ever really doing something for the benefit of the other person; be it positive or negative. Mostly we do things because they make us feel some kind of emotion we are seeking; good, justified, better than, knowledgeable, kind, generous …
If you find that you often feel less than happy, satisfied, content or joyful around people then this technique might just change your life. It definitely works, is 100% effective and will resolve almost any bad feeling you have about anyone. Give it a try, you have everything to gain
Are you frustrated by your career success (or lack of it)? Are you really good at what you do but you just can’t work out how to get someone to realise? Is it sometimes difficult to get taken seriously where you are? Do you just wish you could find your dream job and be happy?
There’s nothing wrong with you. Most people have felt like you do at some point in their career. The good news is that a problem well-stated is a problem half-solved. It just takes a different way of doing things to create the different result that you are looking for and working with someone that has helped hundreds of people get their dream job and find happiness. Email us at email@example.com to set up a time to chat and we’ll see if we can help!