No, I’m not being rude, in the UK that means ‘keep your chin up’ because pecker to us is a nose or mouth. I know, not a chin, but you get the general gist.
Things happen that make us all feel a little out of sorts. Everyone has bad days; their sole purpose in my mind is to make me really appreciate the good and the great days. After all, how would you know it was light if you had never known dark?
Have you noticed how happy people have more friends? Get more done? Are offered more opportunities? Is it because they have a charmed life that they are happy or is it because they are happy that they live a charmed life? I have thought about this and there was a time when I might have thought the former to be true. But then I noticed that there were people with charmed lives who weren’t happy; think Michael Jackson, Elvis Presley and Marilyn Monroe. All of the exterior trappings of success, but none of the happiness and we know what troubles found their way to their doors.
Margaret Young says ‘Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want’
So what if it were the latter? What if by being happy you could create more opportunity? A better job, better relationships, better health. What if by being happy for no particular reason all of the reasons to be happy would then find you? Wouldn’t that be a great thing? What if you were to try it, as an experiment, for thirty days just to see what the results were?
I have some great ways of making myself feel happy. I play little games with myself. Here are three of them;
Wouldn’t it be nice if … ~ sometimes there are no ‘things’ in your experience that make you feel happy so you’ve heard the expression ‘fake it, until you make it’. Let’s do that by starting each sentence with ‘wouldn’t it be nice if ….' (fill in the blank)
Wouldn’t it be nice if Sarah called me today; she always makes me laugh
Wouldn’t it be nice if my boss gave me credit for my input to our team project
Wouldn’t it be nice if I got home from work and someone else had thought about what to have for dinner
Wouldn’t it be nice if I got a parking space right outside the store this afternoon
There are endless endings to this sentence and before you know it you will be imagining all kinds of things that make you feel really good. Really really good. I love this game!
Gratitude Journaling ~ You can do this online now at http://gratitudelog.com or you can use a dedicated journal or indeed any piece of paper to hand. Start thinking of all the things you are grateful for right now. The sun shining, the hot cup of tea, the compliment someone gave you half an hour ago … get creative, get grateful and you will be amazed where your thoughts will take you. Oprah Winfrey quotes this as one of the things that radically changed her life.
Positive Aspects ~ this is similar to gratitude journaling in the sense that you are looking for the things you like, but with positive aspects you focus on one thing and then find all of the positives within that. This is a fabulous process to do if you are feeling a bit less than loving towards someone. When you start you might have to use something easy like ‘she has nice hair’ and work your way up to ‘she always sees both sides’. This is also a great one to do about your job if you are having a ‘what am I doing here’ day. Ten to fifteen minutes of writing positive aspects and you will find you have completely changed your sense of well-being
If you already do one or all of these things I would love to hear your experiences. Or if you want to start your own experiment I would love to hear from you in thirty days.
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